It’s not the truth that tastes awful it’s the bullshit that you are fed before you get the truth! Just Sayin’♥♥♥
27 Mar 2012 1 Comment
What a week I’ve had…Holy Cow….I have ALOT to blog about this week on a variety of different topics…So Just STAY TUNED!!! YOU ARE IN FOR A REAL TREAT!!!?
So I guess we should start by asking the question…How you define Friendship. Here is my answer….
True friendship is when a person looks past your faults, your warped sense of humor, and your cold heartiness and finds the true person deep inside of you
A true friend is someone who talks kind about you even BEHIND your back. Even when you’re out the room or nowhere near them, they still speak highly of you.
To love without condition, to talk without intention, to give without reason… And to care without expectation… this is the heart of a true friend.
A true friendship will last a whole life, no matter how far apart YOU are or for how long, when YOU meet again, it will be like YOU just met yesterday :)….TRUE FRIENDSHIP NEVER DIES!!?
The most unstable of ALL friendships is the FEMALE to FEMALE friendship and trust me it can test the boundaries of what you feel is morally RIGHT!!!
There will come a time when the boundaries of this friendship will come to a full blown TEST…Will your friendship pass or fail….that is the question!!!
So what would be a test of friendship….The HE said She Said Test….
So your friend is into this guy….but you KNOW that this guy is an assbag and is cheating or you have (heard of very strong evidence)….WHAT DO YOU DO????
Are you prepared to risk the friendship…are you prepared for sending her over the edge?? Are you prepared for maybe breaking her heart? Is it YOUR responsibility to tell her?? What IF he starts telling lies about YOU to HER??
And there LIES the problem……THE LIES!!!! While many of us are uncomfortable with lying and knowingly withholding a piece of information…We’re sure we’d WANT to know…There are way many pit falls and very few benefits of being the bearer of bad news….especially cheating news!!
Honesty does have pitfalls in a friendship especially if your friend has been duped into believing he is this GREAT guy when in fact he is more like a huge ASSBAG….Chances are it’s more likely to blow up in your face no matter how good your intentions are…..Why?? My thought…she is just not ready to receive the information because it kind of blows everything wide open and now she is forced to make a conclusive decision about him…
Sometimes the knowledge that your guy has been messing around is the straw that broke the camel’s back…your given an opportunity to WISE up about the type of men your dating and move on….This is the period of Growth……
What about the friend? Can the friendship be repaired? In this day and age where women are struggling with conflicting relationship values and low self-esteem is honesty always the best policy??
It is from my own experience that I would say…..TELL the friend and let the chips fall where they may…..The TRUTH is always the answer and even though the friend may not want to believe it at first and maybe it might even end the relationship…at least her eyes have been open and what she does with the information is totally up to her….let her be mad…let her be upset….and give her time….time heals all wounds. THE TRUTH SHALL SET YOU FREE!!!
Maybe just maybe save you from a lifetime of heartache….
If you keep having those “let’s define the relationship talks” with him…..face it…IF you have to keep defining it…..IT’S NOT BEING DEFINED!!!!
Now let’s go back to the LIEING….. The TRUTH is like an OIL SPILL…. Eventually it WILL ALL SURFACE to the top!!
Don’t ever promise me anything….a promise is just a LIE waiting to happen….
It is truly amazing how someone will try to make you look like you are doing something wrong because they want to feel better about what they are doing themselves. Lying is morally wrong….but it comes naturally to human beings…. It is QUIET ironic that deception is considered ‘fair N love and war’. There are different types of lies….. A white lie…a fabrication…. a noble lie… a lie-to-children, etc. There are different reasons why people LIE……FEAR being one of the most COMMON
FEAR of the truth….being found out….fear of hurting someone’s feelings…fear fear fear…..
Here is my thought….if you wouldn’t want someone to find out about something you’ve done…. then the chances are very good that you SHOULDN’T be doing it! ……Just Sayin’ (Lord knows I have my own skeletons in the closet) everybody has told a lie…Everybody for some reason or another. You can’t throw stones if you live in a glass house and not expect a stone to cross your path!!!
The moral of this story…..FREINDSHIPS are based on TRUST just as RELATIONSHIPS….IF YOU VALUE BOTH…BE HONEST WITH BOTH….. THE TRUTH SHALL SET YOU FREE?
Deciphering the truth is just like the information you research on the internet….verify…verify… verify…don’t jump to conclusions and don’t place blame…verify….the truth always shines through and maybe sometimes they get away with it…but remember one thing….revenge is not for you…that makes you no better….the truth will come through…this where patients comes to play and maybe it is an area in YOUR life that needs work….Life is just one huge TEST and every hurt or wrongdoing done upon you …is only a test of YOUR character….every action causes a reaction and how YOU react to every situation is a reflection of YOUR character not THEIRS…that is what people don’t understand……
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PEACE AND LOVE
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